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There seems to be to me(being a black young lady intrested in asian men) that there are a lot of black females that are intrested in dating asian men, but the men don't seem to share the same feelings. There seems to be a greater "ok" with asian-white couples then asian-black couples. Is there something behind this?
I want honest answers, cause I'm having this problem of liking, but not getting an answer (of yes or no I [don't] like u)

If u think u can share insight please pm or respond to this post.

TY

Hi Misaki,

Unfortunately, AM-BF looks to be one of the rarest combinations, even in diverse communities like the San Francisco Bay Area where you'd think such coupling should happen by osmosis. While it seems largely true that most Asian guys go explicitly for white girls, there are plenty of guys out there who like to try everything from the buffet too, know what I mean?

But quite honestly, I have never really known a lot of black girls who were interested in dating Asians. This could just be a case of neither side, historically, sending out the right signals. Plus, such pairing is vastly underrepresented in popular culture, except for that Jet Li movie with Aaliyah, whose title escapes me.

Anyway, I'm not sure if any of this helped. But remember, Asians are still guys, which means we're still pricks haha so it's probably not worth trying to figure out our motives. But I think you'll be just fine. There's a ton of single folks on here who probably feel the same way. Just be yourself and someone will come around

I agree with much of what GranitePail said, but I live in the northwest where you see the strangest combinations, I've met a few asian guys who only digged black chicks and some who didn't care what color you were, what you looked like as long as the personality was there. I guess it just depends on where you live, or the people you know. And he's right, just be yourself expand your horizons and something will happen when it's ready to . Ohhhhh aand btw GranitePail to help you out the movie was called "Romeo Must Die" hehehe. Hope I kind of encouraged a bit instead of sit here and just say I agree with what GranitePail said. Also, I know how you feel, I get rejected a lot cause I'm plus sized, it sucks but you've just got to keep trying, and keep in mind that individuality plays a role in everything.

I dunno, but I do know one black girl who likes Asian guys and she's been living in Tokyo for the last 3 years. Since then she doesn't wanna come back, not surprising.

Hey Misaki,
I don't know why you're not getting an answer from these guys, but I can tell you that the matches do happen. My best friend is from Trinidad and has been married to her Hong Kong hubby for five years now. They have a beautiful Blasian girl and, yes, they deal with discrimination but they are happy nonetheless.
She too had trouble finding guys when we were younger as she was into Asian guys since forever, but eventually she found her match.
I think that when we know what we want (like being into Asian guys) we narrow our options and so the rate of success in dating seems less because of our specific desires. Women who are attracted to a broader spectrum would seem to get more answers because there are a lot more men to be asking, you know what I mean?
I've been pursuing Asian guys for the last two years and I've only had two dates, both of which never made it to the second date
So hang in there girl, there is a sexy Asian boy out there for all of us ladies! lol

shedancestotrance wrote:

I agree with much of what GranitePail said, but I live in the northwest where you see the strangest combinations, I've met a few asian guys who only digged black chicks and some who didn't care what color you were, what you looked like as long as the personality was there. I guess it just depends on where you live, or the people you know. And he's right, just be yourself expand your horizons and something will happen when it's ready to . Ohhhhh aand btw GranitePail to help you out the movie was called "Romeo Must Die" hehehe. Hope I kind of encouraged a bit instead of sit here and just say I agree with what GranitePail said. Also, I know how you feel, I get rejected a lot cause I'm plus sized, it sucks but you've just got to keep trying, and keep in mind that individuality plays a role in everything.

Romeo Must Die! That's the one. Now I'm ashamed to admit that I've never seen it (or many other Jet Li films for that matter)

I used to live in Seattle, albeit briefly. Loved it, despite the weather. But I did find people up there in the NW to be really laid back, and definitely marched to the beat of their own drummer

Yes there does seem to be very little Black women and Asian Men dating. I've met black women who are friends with asian men but never dated but it doesn't matter, interracial dating will be more and more common as time goes by.



@ Karli
I hope I'll find mine soon though there is a guy at college but apart from afew glances I've never really spoken to him except when I said 'Sorry' for almost walking into him when both of us going through the same door and 'Thank you' when he held it open.

This topic has already been repeated 3 times & is bloody boring. HERE...

/hey-ai-forum/9-english/1168-black-woman-and-korean-men-asian

/hey-ai-forum/9-english/459-do-asian-guys-find-girls-diff-races-attractive

I dont want to start another thread, so I'll hijack your thread by changing the topic into something original which hasn't been discussed yet...

BLACK/CHINESE RELATIONS IN CHINA AND IN AFRICA

We already know that Chinese/black relationships are rare and chinese male/black female relationships are rarer than blackmale/chinese female. I don't want to talk USA or Europe thats been covered already. Instead, relationships IN CHINA and also IN AFRICA.

Any kind of relationship inside China and Africa between blacks and chinese regardless if its CM/BF or BM/CF are generally not tolerated and considered taboo. There are many examples, both very recent and quite topical.
Firstly, in China, there is LouJing, black/chinese mixed race girl who entered china's version of American Idol and encountered a torrent of abuse because of her mothers illict affair with a black american man whilst she was still married to a chinese. The story is here...

www.boingboing.net/2...half-black.html

Although the article below which of course is biased towards Shanghai, seems to think mixed race black guys are highly desirable to chinese women. Says a lot about Shanghai women, although of course I'll withold my personal opinions about Shanghai women. I'm not convinced the same can be said about the desirability of mixed race black females though.

www.shanghaidaily.co...icle_414154.htm

2. CHINESE IN AFRICA

Post-colonial migration to Africa which as seen over 500,000 chinese thus far emigrate to Africa for mining etc. Of course, there are relationships with local africa women and mixed raced children produced, neither of whom are tolerated by either side. I wouldn't say the chinese there are exactly welcomed by the locals with open arms. In fact, many chinese have been murdered. Read the article below and look at images 17 and 18.

lens.blogs.nytimes.c...11/showcase-91/

@Trendy,
Wah! T-T That sucks buddy! I feel for you! It can be frustrating but I think that being into Asian men makes us have to be a bit more assertive. We have to show that we are interested to give them a hint, which is less often the case w. Western men. It's part of our challenge!!!
Fight-ING!! LOL
Don't give up!

Ok well I'm new and sorry that I don't spend the time going through all the old post like you do. But its my choice if I ask a question no matter how many times its been asked before. So grow a member and back off

This is for London and anyone else that has a stick where the sun don't shine.
Thank every1 else for the post, they really help.